Tips to Save Your Marriage instead of divorce

 1. Don’t Wait

It’s important to start right away if you feel that there are issues in your marriage. You don’t want to wait until there is so much bothering you about the relationship that managing everything becomes too much. Procrastinating and addressing things as they come up leads to a lot of pent-up emotions, which can be overwhelming for everyone involved.

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2. Identify Issues & Goals

When you identify an issue, it’s important to be able to talk about it and come up with goals for how to mitigate the concern. Sometimes an issue for one person isn’t an issue for the other, but it’s important to consider your partner’s issues as issues for the relationship as a whole. Come together as partners, lay out the potholes, and identify goals to create a roadmap of how to get around these potholes.

3. Commit to Changing

To save a relationship, you have to really be committed to the cause and the reason why the changes are necessary. Those reasons must become values you hold to or the changes will be short lived. Relationships require commitment each day, and as couples grow, the needs of the relationship can also change. If you’re working on a specific problem in your relationship, making a daily promise to improve in the ways you’ve laid out with your partner can make a big difference over time.

4. Take the Initiative

If you are feeling like you want to address something, don’t wait for your partner to bring it up. You are just as accountable for the success of the relationship as your partner, so ensuring you are speaking up and taking the step yourself is important, because this also can help your partner feel safe to bring things up that they would like to address as well.